ATTENTION UK Residents:
One of my UK students alerted me to a wonderful government grant program that made it possible for her to join ADDventures In Achievement and get the Executive Function help she needed.
Like her, you may be eligible to get financial support for programs such as the ADDventures In Achievement Foundational Skills Program if you have a mental health condition, like ADHD, that makes it difficult for you to do your job.
Through the United Kingdom’s Access to Work Program, you have the opportunity to apply for funds to be used towards helping you develop skills (including your Executive Function skills) that will directly benefit your ability to experience greater success in your work.
As you can imagine, learning skills to improve job performance will also naturally transfer to and greatly improve the quality of your personal life.
According to the information provided by the Access to Work Program...
“Either you run the day, or the day runs you.” Jim Rohn
I was fortunate enough to study with Jim Rohn in the 80s. He was a remarkable human being who insisted that “change begins with choice.”
Everyday we are faced with choices from the tiniest ones, like when to get out of bed, to bigger ones, like saying yes or no to that marriage or job proposal.
Choices are all around you. No matter how hard you try to avoid making decisions, you can’t escape them.
The power of choice is a privilege—an inalienable right of being a human being. But why do you shun it and attempt to avoid making choices in your life? Ultimately, you do make a choice when you’re forced out of bed by your need to go to the bathroom or the cry of a small child... or when that special person gets tired of waiting for your commitment to them… or when you never respond to the job offer.
Why do you give away your power to circumstances? Why do...
Recently someone asked me if I considered ADHD a disorder, and to what extent is ADHD a disorder based on how our society is structured.
Meaning, if culture were different, would it be better suited to ADHD?
Well, this is an interesting question to consider.
According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders-V (say that 10 times fast!), ADHD is considered a disorder: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Scientifically speaking, the word “disorder” within the diagnosis indicates that the brain’s activity is not “in order” or is “without order.”
Hmmm, what does that really mean for us and can our brains become “ordered”?
They can, and I’d be thrilled to show you how. But first...
My personal opinion is that there’s NOTHING wrong with your brain if you have ADHD.
It’s fair to have a debate about how our society is structured and how that affects those of...
Grace means a lot of different things, like decorate, triumph, objectify, accomplish. It also means to have favor—as in divine favor to accomplish something when the odds appear impossible. Grace can be the way we appear, the way we move our bodies, or the way we move through life. It can be the way we act— kind and generous towards others and ourselves.
For me, grace means all those things and more. And I’ve applied it to my life in a unique way that I want to share with you. I use the following acronym for GRACE to promote personal growth. It goes like this:
Challenging ourselves to set true, achievable goals and not fantasy goals.
Choosing to live in reality by facing the truth about ourselves so that we can steer away from the illusions in which our fantasies keep us trapped.
Acceptance of who we are and where we’re at in life and with our...
For some of us, time management is a significant issue and is one more piece of a pattern that undermines self-confidence.
Over the years, it can contribute to feelings of low self-worth, anxiety and depression. Overwhelmed by chronic frustration caused by our own unreliability, some people even give up trying. We isolate from friends and family, leave good jobs that feel too demanding, and generally lower our own expectations of ourselves.
In Parts I & II of this series we talked about time estimation and time blindness. I offered some tools you can use to improve the former and overcome the latter.
And today I promised to tell you about the one thing you need to master for effective time management.
First, a question. If all of us have the same amount of time--24 hours in a day—how do some people seem to be able to pack so much more into that time? Like…
Does time seem to slip through your fingers?
“I’ll just check Facebook real quick,” you say to yourself, and two hours later you realize you haven’t moved from your chair. You’ve read scores of posts, plus the comments, clicked the related links, etc.
You didn’t mean to spend so much time doing it, but you were just oblivious to the time passing. (And yes, I’m attuned to the irony that you might be reading this on Facebook. Keep in mind, the issue is not the platform, but the time you spend on it.
This is time blindness.
And it is commonly seen in those of us with ADHD or under-developed executive function skills.
Why is time blindness a concern?
Because knowing what time it is now, how quickly time is passing, and especially knowing how much time is remaining while you’re involved in a task are three critical pieces of time management.
First it helps to understand what Ari Tuckman, Psy.D. calls the time horizon. As he puts it,...
This week I’ll be covering the topic of time management. It’s a big topic that a lot of people struggle with.
For starters, how good are you at time estimation?
Do you find your projects take longer than you expect or that you are often late for appointments?
You’re not alone.
“There is never enough time or money; this much we all know,” according to a New York Times article. The next line is where it gets really interesting:
“Yet a new study finds that when people estimate how much of each they will have in the future, they are consistently more likely to overestimate their time than their dollars.”
BINGO. People are significantly WORSE at guessing how much TIME they’ll need for something than how much MONEY they’ll need.
I know this to be true from my own experience working with people. I regularly hear from people who struggle with time management overall, and time estimation in particular.
However, here’s where it gets...
Today I want to help you appreciate the significant impact Executive Function skills make in your life.
What happens when you really, really want something—you have the best of intentions!—but you don’t have the skills to back up your dreams?
Frustration, stagnation, loss of self-confidence.
But, as you’ve often hear me say… when we’re talking about SKILLS, they can be LEARNED.
It’s a lot like tying your shoes, which is a skill you weren’t born with, but you learned when you were young, and now you do it without thinking.
“Just Do It” is a slogan, not a strategy.
It’s wonderful to tell kids (and adults) that they can be anything they want to be or do anything they want to do. But then, do we ever really teach them how to set a goal and achieve it?
Because it takes more than just a desire to do it. Willpower is not enough. Executive function (EF) skills help us discover the HOW. That’s the missing link between...
Have you ever not used your allotted vacation days and regretted it, because they didn’t roll over?
Losing vacation days is not uncommon. For some employees they can accumulate vacation time, but for many if those days are not taken in the calendar year, they are forfeited.
And too often I hear people tell me they “just didn’t get around to” taking the time off!
A lot of missed opportunities can’t be salvaged.
I have a dear friend who’s kicking herself, because for 15 years she’s had the opportunity to go to Maine, stay with a cousin for free, and enjoy the beautiful Eastern coast with her family. Now her son is 18 and not interested in going. Plus, her cousin is getting ready to sell the cottage. She’s lost a great opportunity, because she just never slowed down enough to plan it out. It was just work, work, work all the time.
I don’t want that kind of regret for you.
I know most people aren’t traveling right now because...
2020 has been a roller coaster. As the end of the year approaches, many holidays are coming up — yet some people are asking themselves what there is to celebrate.
It depends on where you look, because what you focus on grows.
You could start with the little things. As I always say, it’s important to celebrate everything, not just the big things.
Did you finish a project this year?
Did you get organized — or at least more organized? (Remember: Strive for progress, not perfection.)
Did you get through the election campaign without throwing things at the television?
Did you help somebody out, read a good book, or learn a new recipe?
Those are all WINS worth celebrating.
Then look at the bigger picture. Do you have a roof over your head? (On any given night, millions of people don’t.) Do you consistently have food in the refrigerator? Do you have a job, or the prospect of one? Do you have access to transportation? Are you relatively healthy? If you answered yes...