Dr B's Musings

Do Your Forfeit Your Time?

behavior Feb 26, 2021

Have you ever not used your allotted vacation days and regretted it, because they didn’t roll over?

Losing vacation days is not uncommon. For some employees they can accumulate vacation time, but for many if those days are not taken in the calendar year, they are forfeited.

And too often I hear people tell me they “just didn’t get around to” taking the time off!

A lot of missed opportunities can’t be salvaged.

I have a dear friend who’s kicking herself, because for 15 years she’s had the opportunity to go to Maine, stay with a cousin for free, and enjoy the beautiful Eastern coast with her family. Now her son is 18 and not interested in going. Plus, her cousin is getting ready to sell the cottage. She’s lost a great opportunity, because she just never slowed down enough to plan it out. It was just work, work, work all the time.

I don’t want that kind of regret for you.

I know most people aren’t traveling right now because...

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What Is There to Celebrate?

celebrate wins Nov 19, 2020

2020 has been a roller coaster. As the end of the year approaches, many holidays are coming up — yet some people are asking themselves what there is to celebrate.

It depends on where you look, because what you focus on grows.

You could start with the little things. As I always say, it’s important to celebrate everything, not just the big things.

Did you finish a project this year?

Did you get organized — or at least more organized? (Remember: Strive for progress, not perfection.)

Did you get through the election campaign without throwing things at the television?

Did you help somebody out, read a good book, or learn a new recipe?

Those are all WINS worth celebrating.

Then look at the bigger picture. Do you have a roof over your head? (On any given night, millions of people don’t.) Do you consistently have food in the refrigerator? Do you have a job, or the prospect of one? Do you have access to transportation? Are you relatively healthy? If you answered yes...

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How Perfectionism Feeds Procrastination

Is perfectionism preventing you from making deadlines or finishing projects?

For some people, it keeps them from even getting started.

Procrastination is a symptom of something else. It’s a behavior that  results from something going on in our heads preventing us from taking action.


One of the biggest culprits of procrastination



Are you the type of person who starts a project but loses steam towards the end? If so, it’s possible that you can’t see the finish line, because you’re caught up in making all the details perfect.

Or are you the type of person who never gets started, because you only want to commit and start when you are ready—and since you won’t know when you’re going to be ready in advance, you wait for that “right” time … which never comes.

You know what? It’s never going to be PERFECT. You can get close if you are invested in quality and like to pay attention to...

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What Lies Within You

ripple effect Aug 13, 2020

 I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the ripple effect.

Like a drop in a pool of water, our lives touch other lives. We don’t really know how one action might affect someone else down the road.

Mother Teresa famously said, “We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.”

Isn’t that beautiful? Can you imagine the ripple effect of Mother Teresa’s life? How many people did she have a positive effect on that went on to influence others, who went on to impact even more lives?

Even one moment can have exponential reach.

In my own life, I am reminded of my mentor Jim Rohn and all the positive ways he influenced the world.

In the 80’s I studied under him and just soaked up his amazing intellect and positive thinking. I studied at his ranch with a great group of people.  A couple of them have gone on to create their own positive corner of the universe....

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Externalizing Your Thinking

How many of you remember when you were a kid in school and they told you to show your work? They wanted to see your thinking process, whether it was division or writing a paper or a science project – they wanted you to show your work so they could help guide you.

If you’re anything like me, you could get to the right answer but you often times didn’t know how you got there. And this means that you couldn’t replicate your process and get to the right answer time and time again. In fact, you might have said you were just “lucky” and let it go at that.

Flash forward to adulthood where I realized that showing my work and externalizing my thinking is a wonderful adventure. It allows me to see my process, see where it works out well and see where the flaws are so I can correct them. I wouldn’t be able to do this if I keep it all in my head rather than being able to see it outside of my head.

I took this realization and applied it to my online...

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